I do agree that this book is a bit old fashioned. However, what used to work in the good old days worked for a reason and for that, this is a book that I think many women should read. It’s hard to always be frustrated by circumstance and when men don’t respond in the way you wish, it can be downright frustrating. Overall, this is a book that may seen flash in the pan, but isn’t. It’s got some good insight and for that I recommend it, along with Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man-A Guide To Dating (Revised Edition).
Rating: 5 / 5
Whatever credibility John Gray had is shot with his inclusion of a list of 101 places to meet your soulmate. I thumbed through the book at a co-worker’s desk and couldn’t believe what I was reading. (Neither could she.)
Most of the suggestions are so preposterous that I could read them verbatim at Open Mike Night at a comedy club and bring the house down. Some gems with my comments in brackets:
“If you’re a woman in a restaurant, go to the rest room repeatedly so you can catch the eye of men.” [And hope that a convention of urologists is in town?]
“If you wear a uniform, wear it when you’re off duty because people will approach someone in a uniform.” [I'm sure the meter reader from the local utility company is besieged with offers in between houses.]
“If you don’t attend a church or synagogue, go to the one where there are the most eligible people.” [Hey, who's got the best babes, the synagogue or the Episcopalian church?]
“If you don’t like a museum, go to one and ask an art lover questions.” [Allow me to display my total ignorance and annoy you. Two surefire ways to get you to spend the rest of your life with me.]
Finally my favorite of the list I’ve read so far:
“If you go to a bar and drink alcohol, go to a place where they don’t serve alcohol. Your soulmate might not drink.” [As opposed to 'If you don't do crack, go to a crackhouse because your soulmate might be a crackhead.']
I wish I were making these up, but I’m simply not that clever.
Rating: 1 / 5
This is a rehash of his first book, with “tips” on how to attract a date. However, his system seems to be based on antiquated, stereotypical, gender-biased behaviors that i believe are destructive and deceptive. For example, he recommends being cheery and upbeat at the beginning of a relationship then-whammo!-letting your true self out after the attraction is established. Not good advice, if you ask me! Stay away from this book!
Rating: 1 / 5
I have read most of his books, and as a big John Gray fan, I was very disappointed in this book. The entire book was old fashioned and focused on women who “want to have a relationship and get married to men who do not”. Gray seems to assume that women are desperate to get married-to anyone! What about women who are being pursued and inundated witb men who want to settle down and get married-and we don’t want to marry them? It works both ways, both sexes have the same problems and need advice. Gray should take a non stereotypical approach, it is almost the year 2000! More women are in the business world and are making equal, if not more, money. What do we do about male gold diggers? About men looking for trophy wives? How do we find true soul mates? That’s what I want to know! If you are an independent woman with many dates, if you are a perfectionist and cannot seem to “settle on one mate” if you are looking for advice in this dating world, this is NOT the book for you.
Rating: 2 / 5
Stay away from this one! I read the whole thing, including the 101 suggestions mentioned by an earlier reviewer. I considered a few of his suggestions to be common sensical, but they were unfortunately few and far between. Primarily, he promotes tired sex-role stereotypes and preachy, opinionated pop-psychology. IMHO he creates more problems than he solves, suggesting that you present a fairly artificial side of yourself until the person you’ve attracted has committed to you for life. Following his formulae are sure to leave both you and your partner bewildered later, as the true nature which you withheld from each other emerges.
Rating: 1 / 5
July 24th, 2010 - 02:44
I do agree that this book is a bit old fashioned. However, what used to work in the good old days worked for a reason and for that, this is a book that I think many women should read. It’s hard to always be frustrated by circumstance and when men don’t respond in the way you wish, it can be downright frustrating. Overall, this is a book that may seen flash in the pan, but isn’t. It’s got some good insight and for that I recommend it, along with Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man-A Guide To Dating (Revised Edition).
Rating: 5 / 5
July 24th, 2010 - 04:08
Whatever credibility John Gray had is shot with his inclusion of a list of 101 places to meet your soulmate. I thumbed through the book at a co-worker’s desk and couldn’t believe what I was reading. (Neither could she.)
Most of the suggestions are so preposterous that I could read them verbatim at Open Mike Night at a comedy club and bring the house down. Some gems with my comments in brackets:
“If you’re a woman in a restaurant, go to the rest room repeatedly so you can catch the eye of men.” [And hope that a convention of urologists is in town?]
“If you wear a uniform, wear it when you’re off duty because people will approach someone in a uniform.” [I'm sure the meter reader from the local utility company is besieged with offers in between houses.]
“If you don’t attend a church or synagogue, go to the one where there are the most eligible people.” [Hey, who's got the best babes, the synagogue or the Episcopalian church?]
“If you don’t like a museum, go to one and ask an art lover questions.” [Allow me to display my total ignorance and annoy you. Two surefire ways to get you to spend the rest of your life with me.]
Finally my favorite of the list I’ve read so far:
“If you go to a bar and drink alcohol, go to a place where they don’t serve alcohol. Your soulmate might not drink.” [As opposed to 'If you don't do crack, go to a crackhouse because your soulmate might be a crackhead.']
I wish I were making these up, but I’m simply not that clever.
Rating: 1 / 5
July 24th, 2010 - 06:59
This is a rehash of his first book, with “tips” on how to attract a date. However, his system seems to be based on antiquated, stereotypical, gender-biased behaviors that i believe are destructive and deceptive. For example, he recommends being cheery and upbeat at the beginning of a relationship then-whammo!-letting your true self out after the attraction is established. Not good advice, if you ask me! Stay away from this book!
Rating: 1 / 5
July 24th, 2010 - 09:38
I have read most of his books, and as a big John Gray fan, I was very disappointed in this book. The entire book was old fashioned and focused on women who “want to have a relationship and get married to men who do not”. Gray seems to assume that women are desperate to get married-to anyone! What about women who are being pursued and inundated witb men who want to settle down and get married-and we don’t want to marry them? It works both ways, both sexes have the same problems and need advice. Gray should take a non stereotypical approach, it is almost the year 2000! More women are in the business world and are making equal, if not more, money. What do we do about male gold diggers? About men looking for trophy wives? How do we find true soul mates? That’s what I want to know! If you are an independent woman with many dates, if you are a perfectionist and cannot seem to “settle on one mate” if you are looking for advice in this dating world, this is NOT the book for you.
Rating: 2 / 5
July 24th, 2010 - 11:08
Stay away from this one! I read the whole thing, including the 101 suggestions mentioned by an earlier reviewer. I considered a few of his suggestions to be common sensical, but they were unfortunately few and far between. Primarily, he promotes tired sex-role stereotypes and preachy, opinionated pop-psychology. IMHO he creates more problems than he solves, suggesting that you present a fairly artificial side of yourself until the person you’ve attracted has committed to you for life. Following his formulae are sure to leave both you and your partner bewildered later, as the true nature which you withheld from each other emerges.
Rating: 1 / 5